Adoption Search Tips

So I received a question on Adoption.com today asking for tips & advice on finding searching. The poster of this question said they do not have a lot of information on their family. I did not have a lot of information on my birthmother when I was searching as well & a lot of the information was false so I can definitely help you out with this. 

My advice to you, if you don't have a lot of information on your adoption or birth family Is to take all the information you have about her and post on numerous adoption search sites because believe it or not a ton of people look on those sites. You should also try to contact the hospital you were born in or adoption agency you were adopted out of. My best advice for you is to take all the information you have about her and just search the Internet & make phone calls & emails & even look in the phone book. The process is long, hard & emotional but it is totally worth it! The night that my birthmother contacted me for the first time was the night that I told myself I was ready to give up! DO NOT GIVE UP! It may get frustrating at times because you may feel like you're searching & searching & not finding anything but if you keep trying you are bound to find something! Good Luck! 

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UPDATE 6/26/2013

I have been getting many responses from people about "running away to be with my birthmother". People have been telling me that I am heartless & selfish but they do not know the full story. I had a lot of issues going on at home and when I turned 18 I decided to move out and try to start over. My adoptive parents knew it was coming. Unfortunately, these last couple months have not been a walk in the park for me. I've had to finish all my school work online to make sure I get my diploma from high school. 

When it came time to walk in graduation my birthmother & her husband brought me to New Jersey so I could attend my graduation & walk across the stage. When I got there my birthmother started receiving texts on her phone saying how she has ruined my life & my future & that I'm not safe with her. This upset her to the point where she was shaking & it gave me so much anxiety that I felt uncomfortable attending my graduation ceremony. I was so upset because I was looking forward to walking across the stage. Later that night I went to the high school & asked to just have my diploma handed to me. My principle didn't even think twice & just handed me my diploma. I could tell he felt very bad.